Feel Better:
Podcast & Free Tools
The Feel Better Podcast.
The Feel Better Podcast is your space for honest conversations about mental health, relationships, and emotional wellbeing. Hosted by me (Charlotte Cummings), a registered New Zealand counsellor with over 20 years of experience. The show covers real-life topics that help you feel stronger, calmer, and more connected in your daily life.
With over 55,000 downloads, listeners from around the world have tuned in for practical strategies, compassionate insights, and conversations that make you feel understood.
Each episode is designed to be both relatable and actionable, so you can take what you hear and start applying it right away.
From the Listeners...
I’ve created a library of free mental health tools to help you reflect, reset, and make positive changes. These downloadable guides, worksheets, and exercises are easy to use and designed to support you wherever you’re at.
Free tools for a calmer, stronger you.
Are you angry because your partner left something on the bench? Or are you angry because you feel like you’re doing an uneven share of the housework, and this is just one more piece of evidence? Take time to think about your own feelings, so that your discussion is about what really matters. Fight about feelings, not things!
Fair Fighting Rules
A clear, practical guide to addressing the real issues behind conflict so you can resolve challenges without damaging your connection.
Knowing our own personal values is a key part of living well through a challenging time.
We can gain tremendous satisfaction from showing up in the world in a way that is consistent with our values. And, living in accordance with our values gives us purpose and focus, when some things are out of our control.
Values Worksheet
Clarify your personal values so you can make decisions and live in a way that feels meaningful, especially during challenging times.
This worksheet has been designed to help you reflect on the year that has been. It can be used as a ‘stand alone’ resource, or alongside my podcast episode on this topic (Episode 14 - available at www.charlottecummings.nz/podcast)
End-of-Year Reflection Worksheet
Look back on your year with clarity and intention. Use as a stand-alone resource or alongside Episode 14 of The Feel Better Podcast.
Feelings and Needs Worksheet
A framework for recognising your core feelings and needs so you can communicate more effectively.
This resource is designed to support couples who have things they want to work on in their relationship. It helps you more clearly define and agree on what’s wrong in your relationship, and make clear plans on how you will begin to move forward on these issues.
What’s Wrong
This resource is designed to support couples who have things they want to work on in their relationship.
A simple, playful tool for smoother car rides, warmer conversations, and memories that last.
Back Seat Banter: The Family Question Game
A simple, playful tool for smoother car rides, warmer conversations, and memories that last.
A reflective guide designed to help you align your outer life with your inner values, How to Build a Life That Feels as Good as It Looks offers insightful questions and core principles to cultivate authenticity, connection, and lasting fulfillment.
How to Build a Life That Feels as Good as It Looks
A reflective workbook with practical questions and principles to align your outer life with your inner values, creating greater authenticity, connection, and fulfilment.
This resource provides you with a list to work through to help you to review and re-balance the mental load with your partner.
Mental Load Checklist
A step-by-step list to help you review and re-balance the invisible work you carry, and share responsibilities more fairly with your partner.
If you experience panic attacks, it is really important that you have a range of strategies you can use when you need to - either proactively to avoid panic growing, or when you are needing to manage panic at its highest point.
Managing a Panic Attack
Practical tools to reduce panic, whether you use them early to prevent escalation or in the moment at its peak.
Behaviours that escalate conflict and damage a relationship. Over time, these harmful behaviours may become a normal part of communication between partners.
The Four Horsemen
Understand the four harmful behaviours that escalate conflict, and how to replace them with healthier communication.
This resource is designed to support people who have experienced sexual abuse, who want to have a sense of what they may choose to cover in counselling and the areas they may wish to reflect on and address in their process of recovery from this experience.
Sexual Abuse Refelction Questions
This resource is designed to support people who have experienced sexual abuse.
The Comparison Trap: A Guide for Parents of Neurodivergent Kids
A full sample section from This Wasn’t the Plan, exploring why comparison hits so hard when you’re raising neurodivergent children — and how to move toward compassion, steadiness, and a definition of thriving that actually fits your family.
This is the journalling exercise I’ve been using for about 15 years, which also forms the foundation of many conversations in counselling with clients. It is designed to get you beyond feelings and thoughts, to explore the beliefs from which these feelings and thoughts come.
Journalling for Beliefs
A guided exercise to help you explore the beliefs driving your thoughts and feelings, used by Charlotte in her own practice for over 15 years.
Mental health is about more than just the absence of illness - it’s about how 'well’ we are.
This guide features series of questions which have been designed to support your reflection around your mental health.
How Are You Really?
A guided reflection on your mental health, designed to help you check in with yourself and identify areas for care and improvement.
These questions have been designed to support parents to discuss their parenting. In particular, the questions are helpful for ensuring a shared vision, and they can assist in navigating and communicating through any differences.
Parenting Discussion Guide
Questions to help parents create a shared vision, improve communication, and navigate differences in approach.
An Unbearable Feeling is a feeling we are highly allergic to. So much so that this feeling becomes our ‘master‘. Most people will have one or sometimes two of these feelings which are at play in their life.
Unbearable Feelings
Identify the emotions you avoid most, and learn how they may be shaping your reactions and relationships.
This resource is designed to support busy, responsible people who know they need to work out what stays and what goes by asking a series of questions to to deepen your thinking around your commitments.
How to Decide What to Give Up
This resource is designed to support busy, responsible people who know they need to work out what stays and what goes.
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You can explore the Feel Better Podcast and download any of the free mental health resources right now.
They’re here for you, to help you understand yourself better, manage challenges, and take steps towards the life you want.
– Charlotte
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Looking for structured ongoing support?
If you’re feeling stuck, in your mindset, your habits, or the way life’s playing out, you might be ready for something beyond single sessions. Change Therapy is one-on-one support with me (Charlotte), designed for people who want clarity, direction, and real momentum.
It’s structured, ongoing, and built to help you shift what’s no longer working.